Personal Growth
Why Feminism Isn’t Going Backwards, But Can’t Seem To Move Forward
Can we lay something to rest real quick? I’m hearing a lot of folks lament feminism going backward, citing how the majority of the domestic labor right now is falling on women. We’re taking care of the children, giving up our careers, and managing the household cooking, cleaning, and allthethings. I hear this. I feel (…)
Money or Impact?
Money or impact? Those are your choices. Allegedly. Allegedly there’s no middle ground. Allegedly, if you want to change the world, you should make money first. Then use your money to make an impact. There are big advantages to having money first. You’re less susceptible to making bad decisions “for the money” (because you already (…)
How To Poke A Hole
This week a friend of mine quit the online business world, quit self-help, and quit thought leadership. I encouraged his quitting because I don’t believe you should do things that aren’t aligned with who you are. But some of the reasons he cited for quitting were disturbing because they’re the same reasons I often want to bail (…)
Slow Down
One of the greatest American contradictions is, “more is better.” We know it is not. We know, “a greater variety of choices actually makes us feel worse.” Schwartz, Barry. The Paradox of Choice, pp122-3. It’s why the best retailers, merchandisers, and marketers all seek to reduce your options. Choose this one – is the message at the heart (…)
A Few Things I’ve Learned About Writing
So, I’m knee-deep in book writing after a two-month hiatus of non-stop existential crises and some actual crises. I know they say circumstances are never ideal for creativity, but calmer would be nice. I heard Adam Grant say in an interview once that he used to write term papers in college while his roommate threw parties and it (…)
How To Behave On Thanksgiving
Why advice to say silent or speak up is wrong – this is what’s really happening on Thanksgiving.
It’s Time To Start Writing
Writing is weird. It’s weird because in order to do it (well) you need long stretches of uninterrupted time. But when you get those long stretches of uninterrupted time, you go into a mental mind-fuckery of all the reasons why you can’t possibly write. And I blame Lizzy. Lizzy is the (not so) lovable asshole (…)
The Problem With “Tell Your Story”
When we read Crime and Punishment in college, my professor spent a full month on the significance of the confession. Not Raskolnikov’s because I don’t want to tell you if he confesses or not if you haven’t read it. But the act of confession itself. Like saying the truth out loud. Apparently, St. Augustine was big on (…)